Why Playing Nice Is Killing Your Integrity, Dulling Your Impact, and Keeping You Addicted to the Performance of Goodness—Because Real Virtue Isn’t Always Polite, and You Know It

This isn’t a polite think-piece about ethics. It’s a loaded punch to the gut of your moral posturing. In a world obsessed with being seen as “appropriate,” this article exposes the performance of goodness we’ve come to mistake for virtue—and calls it out for what it really is: fear, obedience, and cura...

The Virtue of Being Inappropriate: Fuck (Not F*ck!) Appropriate—Because the Asterisk Is Just Another Muzzle

The Inner Architecture and Ontological Blueprint of a Sacred Fire Reclaimed

This is not another piece romanticising passion or reducing intensity to a personality quirk. The Gravity of Intensity is a visceral, poetic, and piercing journey into the essence of what it means to live—truly live—from the core of your Being. It’s a love letter to those who’ve been called “too much,” “too deep,” “too intense”—those who burn quietly but undeniably.
In a world addicted to neutra...

The Gravity of Intensity— An Overlooked Ontological Presence: Reclaiming the Fire Within

What Pulls You and What Calls You — The Subtle Art of Ontological Discernment

In a world where “being yourself” is celebrated as the highest virtue — and often confused with impulsivity, oversharing, or curated emotional chaos — how do we live in a way that’s authentic without being reckless, expressive without being performative, and free without being feral?

This article invites you into the heart of a deeper ontological paradox: how to unleash the fullness of your unique Bei...

Reconciliation of Repression, Expression, and Responsiveness

A Piercing Little Gift for Anyone Addicted to Poetic Pain and the Illusion of Growth

This isn’t a gentle essay about self-discovery — it’s a ruthless interrogation of the emotional theatre we mistake for transformation. In a world where personal development has been hijacked by aesthetic vulnerability, curated breakdowns, and poetic self-deception, sentimentalism has become the invisible enemy. This article exposes how we romanticise our pain, narrate our healing instead of living it, a...

The Theatre of Sentimentalism: Why You’re Still Acting Instead of Becoming

A Reflection on Loss, Legacy, the Sacred Ontology of Grief, the Fulfilment of a Life, and the Content That Endures

This is not just an article. It is an encounter. A reflection. A reckoning with grief—not as a moment of sorrow, but as an ontological event. "Grief, the Mirror of Being" is a deeply human meditation on what it means to lose someone who mattered, not only to your heart, but to your Becoming.

This piece was written in honour of John Lowe, my beloved friend, reviewer, collabor...

The Silence That Speaks: Death, Transformation, and the Ontological Culmination of a Human Life

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Tired of the guilt trips, gatekeeping, and performative purity spirals around using AI? This article doesn’t just defend thoughtful AI use—it dismantles the lazy moral panic surrounding it.

“AI Wrote This and Other Lazy Lies We Tell Ourselves” is a manifesto for writers, coaches, creators, and leaders who refuse to outsource their soul—or their responsibility.
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From Sentiment to Substance: Exposing the Myth of Selfhood and Why Becoming Requires Tension, Discernment, and Contribution

We’ve been sold a seductive myth: that authenticity is about “finding yourself”—as if your real self is a hidden gem, buried under life’s distractions, waiting to be unearthed through journaling, travel, or just the right retreat. But real authenticity isn’t a treasure hunt—it’s a confrontation. It’s not about uncovering a fixed, inner essence. It’s a...

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Why Your Conversations Keep Imploding Even When You Both Swear You're Ready

This isn’t your average guide to communication. The Recursive Loop of Misunderstanding dives headfirst into the brutal reality of why your well-meaning conversations with your partner keep spiralling into chaos, even when you both swear you're ready. It exposes the psychological treadmill where vulnerability becomes ammunition, meaning gets twisted, and trust collapses under the weight of misaligned perceptions.

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The Recursive Loop of Misunderstanding: When Talking Feels Like Walking Through a Verbal Minefield

How AI, Science, and Language Regurgitate the Narratives of Power, Hijacking Your Sense-Making and What It Takes to Fight Back

This wasn’t supposed to be a battle. Just a simple question to ChatGPT about fluoxetine—Prozac, the so-called serotonin saviour. But what came back wasn’t information. It was propaganda wrapped in clinical respectability.
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The Machine That Lied by Telling the Truth: AI as the Echo Chamber of Power and Consensus

How Sincerity Became Theatre, Identity Masqueraded as Truth, and the Real Was Staged to Death

This is not a feel-good sermon about “being yourself.” This is an ontological scalpel, wielded without apology.

Authenticity Is Dead. And You Killed It. is a philosophical takedown of the performative culture masquerading as “realness”—where sincerity is staged, identity is weaponised, and expression is mistaken for depth. In an age where vulnerability is monetised, institutions script t...

Authenticity Is Dead. And You Killed It.

How We Swing Between Openness and Armour: What It Takes to Lead with Vulnerability, Ontological Responsiveness, and Higher Purpose

The Vulnerability Pendulum examines the deeply human, often unspoken phenomenon of swinging between openness and guardedness—not as a psychological quirk but as an ontological pattern that shapes how we live, lead, relate, and build systems. Drawing from Ashkan Tashvir’s Being Framework, Metacontent Discourse, and the Nested Theory of Sense-Making and Authenti...

The Vulnerability Pendulum

How We Modulate Between Communicating, Manipulating, Dominating, and Demonstrating—And Why Our Being Matters More Than Our Words

Influence isn’t merely about what we say—it’s a reflection of how we are.

This article introduces four core modes of influence—Communicate, Manipulate, Dominate, and Demonstrate—not as behavioural styles, but as ontological expressions of our internal state, intention, and presence.

Rooted in the Being Framework, Metacontent Discourse, and the Nest...

The Four Modes of Influence

As an emerging leader with aspirations to climb the corporate ladder or transition to a more fulfilling career, do you believe you have to pretend to be someone you’re not to be accepted? Do you sometimes doubt yourself or feel unheard, unseen and undervalued? If so, you’re not alone. Putting on a fake persona in the workplace is more common than many people realise. However, there are significant costs in doing so. In this article, Jeanette Mundy explains why the adage that you have to ‘f...

Sick of changing who you are to fit in?

As a sales leader, be it an individual sales director, account manager, business development professional or sales manager, you are constantly interacting with and leading people, whether they are reporting to you or indirectly supporting you to win your next deal for the company. Empowering clients and supporting them with solutions to their problems always comes back to interpersonal relationships. And we all know what every relationship needs: trust. The question is, how can you build trust r...

Building trust in the sales relationship

Stepping into an account management or sales leadership role can be challenging, especially if your sales deals can take 12–24 months or longer to secure. Complexities show up throughout the purchasing cycle, from qualifying a new opportunity, engaging clients with presentations and sharing your solution’s capabilities to producing, presenting and negotiating a project contract to implement the solution. As a sales leader, how can you remain effective throughout such a lengthy process, espec...

4 factors that contributed to winning large & complex sales deals

You need to work on your business, not in your business. As a business owner, you’ve probably heard this line multiple times, be it from business advisors or well-meaning people trying to help. But does the thought of delegating some of the operational tasks you currently do yourself to make your business a success seem too far from your reach? In this article, business consultant Anthea Stevanovic reveals seven steps to gradually remove yourself from your business' operational functions and e...

Get yourself out of your business' operations: The 7 steps

It's easy to feel isolated, different, alone and excluded when dealing with a disbaility that impacts you 24/7. While some disabilities are visible because they are obvious, there are a vast number of hidden or invisible conditions that affect people's daily lives just as significantly. Many people choose to keep their hidden disability a secret, often not realising the toll that decision can take until things start spiralling out of control. In this article, Wayne Stickel, a wellbeing and effec...

The role of a community in supporting people with hidden disabilities to flourish

When we are at the receiving end of obstacles and unexpected detours, it’s easy to get stuck in the trap of victimhood. If you manage a team with members who are constantly locked in complaint mode and find it difficult to turn the situation around, team morale can be impacted, slowing productivity. In this article, Jacqueline Hofste, an ontological leadership coach with a background in senior leadership roles in the corporate environment and archetypal consulting, explains how and what we can...

Is your team stuck in Victimhood mentality

Many people like the idea of becoming a coach and dive in without considering why they want to pursue professional coaching and what it takes to create a successful coaching business. Many also don’t have an authentic understanding of what it means to be a professional coach. As General Manager of the Being Profile®, Lucy Faulconer leads a global community of coaches and has the opportunity to hear the stories behind why they chose to become a coach. In this article, she shares some of those ...

Are you thinking of becoming a coach?

It is natural to want to understand why you are the way you are. But once you have that insight, what can you do about it if you discover areas that aren’t serving you? Traditional theories and approaches suggest that you learn how to manage your fixed traits or set short-term action plans to change certain habits or behaviours. In this article, Lucy Faulconer, General Manager – Being Profile®, a leadership coach and an organisational psychologist, reveals how she and many other coaches, le...

How the Being Profile facilitates our ability to transform

Modern society has provided an opportunity to redefine the traditional male and female roles that have been passed down from father to son and mother to daughter for millennia. However, rather than treat each other as humans and appoint the best person for the job, we seem to be caught up in the need to balance the power between the sexes, for example, by electing women just because there are too many men at the top. In this article, John Williams discusses why healthy masculinity is no threat t...

Why healthy masculinity is no threat to feminine empowerment, and “real men” are not afraid of women having power

Are you a business owner who feels overwhelmed and frustrated because you are constantly putting out fires? Is addressing whatever issue pops up on any given day preventing you from being the proactive, strategic and productive leader you want to be who is working towards achieving a clearly defined set of goals? If so, you are not alone. Anthea Stevanovic explains why this issue is so common and the steps she uses to successfully support her clients to elevate themselves from firefighters to fu...

Are you a firefighter or a business owner?

Being part of a sales organisation as a key account, customer engagement, or customer success manager can be challenging. It requires you to balance organisational, client and partner interests while constantly looking out for opportunities to solve problems for clients and secure the next deal to grow company revenue. One key challenge is identifying where to spend the most time and effort. Another is to determine for which of your customer’s problems your organisation’s solution is a match...

How to deal with running out of time as a sales leader

Most of us know somebody who is transactional in their relationships with others, whether it be someone at work, at home or in our social circle. It might even be you. Some might argue that being transactional is the only way to meet targets at work or protect yourself from being taken advantage of. In this article, leadership and confidence coach Helen Robinett explains why any relationship that focuses on getting rather than giving is toxic and how to build authentic, transformative relationsh...

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